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Sometimes life—or the universe—co-creates the conditions for us to see something differently.
After a few meetings and events this week, I noticed parts of me wanting to be right, especially when hearing feedback—even when, underneath it all, we actually wanted the same result.
Then an old story from imperial China appeared in my video feed.
A powerful leader was warned by an official he had supported: one person's capability is limited. If the people around you cannot speak, contribute and stand with you, eventually even your own effort will be exhausted.
The official saw something important. He kept pressing the point. The leader became defensive, their relationship broke, and the official was eventually punished and sent away.
The leader remained extremely powerful. Yet after his death, many who had stayed silent began speaking against him. His honours were stripped, his property confiscated, and his family suffered.
What had once been a warning eventually became visible: people around a leader may stay silent long before the consequences of that silence become visible.
Another old story came with another way.
An official strongly disagreed with an emperor's order. He did not give up his principle. He also did not begin with: “You are wrong.”
Instead, he spoke to the result the emperor cared about: If we do this, it may create greater resistance and make the country harder to govern.
Same conviction.
Another way of bringing it into the room.
And a different result became possible.
That stayed with me.
We can walk into a meeting genuinely wanting the best outcome. We see what is missing, what could be stronger, what we might have done differently.
And somewhere inside that good intention, another part can appear:
the part that wants to be right.
I know that part.
It sees quickly. It cares deeply about quality. It has helped us lead, build, protect standards and move difficult things forward.
It does not need to disappear.
And there are other parts of us available too.
The one who can listen a little longer.
The one who can stay curious when feedback touches something sensitive.
The one who can make room for another person's way.
The one who can ask:
What result are we actually trying to create together?
Sometimes speaking clearly serves that result.
Sometimes challenging does.
Sometimes holding the standard.
Sometimes saying no.
And sometimes the stronger move is not taking over.
We may know what we would do.
And at the same time, another question can sit beside that knowing:
“What would help the people here bring their best?”
The Leader in us can still be powerful without always being the person with the answer.
There is also power in creating enough space, clarity and trust for better answers to emerge from the whole.
So in our next meeting, we can simply notice.
Can we listen one moment longer before responding?
When someone brings a problem:
“What do you recommend?”
When we disagree:
“What result are we trying to create together?”
When someone else is leading, can we give their leadership room?
And when we know we are right:
Does winning this point help us create the best result?
Not every misunderstanding needs another explanation. Not every imperfect decision needs our intervention. Not everything we can improve needs to become ours.
And sometimes what we contribute most is not another answer, but the conditions for other people to become stronger too.
Another dimension of leadership becomes available:
From winning the point
to creating the condition.
This week, one question to carry into the rooms we enter:
What conditions do we need for the best result to emerge?
We can speak.
We can ask.
We can listen.
We can wait.
And notice what each moment is asking from us.
Love and gratitude from Jen ❤️
Stay Grounded. Blossom Infinitely.
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Leadership is not about winning the point.
It is about creating the conditions for the best result to emerge.
