YOUR 'NEW HOME' IS WORTH AND EXCITING TO PULL YOU OUT OF YOUR 'OLD HOME'?
('Old home' is a metaphor for your past formed by thoughts, beliefs, habits...; 'new home' is a metaphor for your now and future with new thoughts, beliefs, and habits...)
If you have felt stuck in your 'old home' for long, maybe one of the reasons is you don't have your 'new home' or your 'new home' is not worthy enough to go to)
-------This is a conversation uncovering the feeling of wanting to get out of the 'old home' when not yet having a 'new home'------
Coachee: I often felt shut down
Jen: What does it look like? The feeling called ‘shut down’?
Coachee: I felt numbed and I couldn’t do anything
Jen: Would it be okay to not do anything for some time?
Coachee: Not really, as I shut down, I could lose 8 hours a day…
Jen: Would it be ok to lose the 8 hours a day sometimes…
Coachee: Not really, as once a week, it could happen 2-3 times, I could not do anything I have to do
Jen: You have felt that for how long?
Coachee: I have felt that for almost a year
Jen: So you have felt ‘shut down’ for a year, it made you lose lots of times, and you want to change it…Do you think it is time to change it now? Maybe it can be later…
Coachee: No, it has to be now, I don’t want to experience this anymore…
Jen: So, you decide to change it, could you describe it clearer – making it clear as a person standing in front of you…
Coachee: Wow, that feeling is like I am sinking in the memories, and I am just staying there, ‘swimming in there in a struggling way’.
Jen: What made it happen?
Coachee: Normally when there is a trigger, the trigger can be anything, can be a thought, can be an image, can be a word, can be a message…These triggers just draw me back to the past…I felt struggling in the water, trying to get on the shore…
Jen: Any interesting things when being with the water, sometimes we actually can swim, right?
Coachee: No, I don’t want that swim, I felt like struggling and I could drown if I stayed there, so I always tried to get on the shore…I felt difficult to breathe in the water…
Jen: So where do you go if you get out of that…
Coachee: Wow, …, I don’t think about it yet, just getting out of the water first… getting out of the ‘shutdown space’
Jen: Getting out to do what?
Coachee: To do what I need to do…
Jen: The thing you need to do is exciting enough to make you need to get out of the water?
Coachee: Not yet, mostly like something I have to do because it is as a pressure…
Jen: So why do you need to get out then…when it is not that exciting…
Coachee: Wow, I have to get out anyway…I think I would make it exciting and worthwhile to make me get out of the water…I
have a reason to do so…I experienced it before, the time when I had a strong reason to do something
Jen: So the ‘shutdown space – inside the water part’ is like an ‘old home’ and it is so familiar to you…But your ‘new home’ is not yet built, is not yet exciting, you even get on the water, you don’t
know where to go yet…
Coachee: Wow, I will build it clearly and
make it vivid and exciting …Let me make a plan for it now…
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Wish us to enjoy the now, being pulled by an
exciting future that we all deserve!
