We would love mouses and insects when we evolve?
Sometimes a simple conversation opens a much deeper doorway.
Recently, I was talking with a driver about a certain area where insects and mice often appear. Naturally, the topic turned to cleanliness, order, and the kinds of conditions that make certain forms of life more likely to gather.
At some point, I asked him:
“What happens if everything becomes very clean — so clean that these insects or animals no longer have a place to live?”
He paused, then said something simple, but deeply meaningful:
“Maybe they will evolve.
Or maybe we will evolve to live with them in a more harmonious way.”
That answer stayed with me.
Because it did not come from rejection.
It did not come from the instinct to dominate, eliminate, or hate what feels inconvenient.
It came from a deeper intelligence:
when conditions change, life does not only disappear.
Life reorganizes.
Life adapts.
And sometimes, we are the ones being asked to evolve too.
🌿 The leadership habit of wanting to remove what we do not prefer
In leadership, in organizations, and even in our own inner world, we often fall into a familiar instinct:
When something feels messy, difficult, or uncomfortable,
we try to remove it quickly.
We want:
cleaner systems
clearer structures
more control
fewer disruptions
less unpredictability
And on one level, that makes sense.
A healthy system does need care.
A conscious leader does need discernment.
A strong environment does need boundaries.
But there is a subtle line between creating healthier conditions
and rejecting everything that does not fit our preference.
This is where wisdom matters.
Because not everything that feels inconvenient is the enemy.
Not everything unfamiliar needs to be removed.
Not everything uncomfortable is a sign that something is wrong.
Sometimes, discomfort is simply evidence that the conditions are changing.
And when conditions change, everyone in the system is being invited to respond.
🌿 Evolution is not always elimination
What touched me most in the driver’s answer was not only the idea that those creatures might evolve.
It was the other possibility:
maybe we evolve too.
Maybe we learn:
how to live differently
how to build differently
how to relate differently
how to create a more harmonious balance with what is around us
This is a much more mature response than hate.
Because hate usually comes from one place:
the refusal to stay in relationship with what we do not fully control.
To hate is often to say:
“This should not be here.”
“This should not exist.”
“This should move according to my comfort.”
But life is larger than our preference.
And leadership becomes deeper when we stop asking only:
“How do I get rid of what I do not like?”
and begin asking:
“What kind of relationship is this moment inviting me to have?”
Not every relationship means staying passive.
Not every form of coexistence means a lack of boundaries.
But there is a profound difference between:
responding with clarity
andreacting with aversion.
🌿 What this means in organizations
The same pattern appears in teams and systems.
A leader may want to “clean up” a culture:
remove inefficiency, reduce friction, strengthen standards.
All of that can be necessary.
But if the deeper energy behind the action is only intolerance for discomfort, something happens:
The system may become externally cleaner,
but internally tighter.
People become more careful than creative.
More compliant than alive.
More afraid than responsible.
Because they can feel that what is not perfect is not welcome.
And when imperfection is not welcome, evolution becomes difficult.
True leadership is not only about creating order.
It is about creating conditions where:
life can mature
truth can surface
differences can be worked with
and what does not yet fit can either evolve, or reveal what the system itself needs to learn
Sometimes a team member is not simply “the problem.”
Sometimes they are revealing an adaptation the system has not yet learned how to make.
Sometimes friction is not only dysfunction.
Sometimes it is information.
🌿 What this means inside ourselves
This became even more real to me when I reflected on the inner world.
There are parts of ourselves that, in a more conscious season of life, we may want to get rid of quickly.
Our fear.
Our defensiveness.
Our need for approval.
Our control.
Our impatience.
Our old patterns.
We may look at them and think:
“These parts should no longer be here.”
“I have done enough work. Why am I still like this?”
“I need to eliminate this.”
But what if inner growth is not always about elimination?
What if sometimes it is about:
understanding
re-educating
integrating
relating differently
Not hating the old part of ourselves,
but helping it evolve.
Not forcing it out,
but inviting it into a different role in the system of who we are becoming.
Because many of our old patterns were once intelligent responses to earlier conditions.
They learned how to protect us.
How to help us survive.
How to keep us safe in environments that may not have welcomed our full truth.
So when our inner environment becomes “cleaner” — more conscious, more grounded, more aligned — those old parts do not always disappear instantly.
Sometimes they are being invited to transform.
And sometimes, we are being invited to become the kind of person who can live with more awareness, more compassion, and more inner harmony.
🌿 Harmony is a more advanced form of power
I keep feeling that our culture often celebrates one kind of power:
the power to remove, control, dominate, or win.
But there is another kind of power that may be even more mature:
the power to remain clear
without becoming harsh.
The power to have boundaries
without hatred.
The power to change conditions
without losing reverence for life.
The power to co-create with complexity
instead of needing everything to obey our comfort.
This is true in ecosystems.
In organizations.
In families.
In our own nervous system.
There is a wisdom in learning how to live in right relationship.
Not with everything.
Not without discernment.
But with a heart that does not automatically turn difference into rejection.
🌿 Perhaps the question is not only what must change
After that conversation, I found myself sitting with a different kind of reflection.
When something in our life feels out of place, perhaps the question is not only:
“How do I remove this?”
Perhaps it is also:
“What is being invited to evolve here?”
Is this thing being asked to transform?
Am I being asked to transform?
Is the relationship itself being invited into a more conscious form?
Is there a way to create healthier conditions without creating more separation?
These questions feel more alive to me than simple rejection.
Because leadership is not only about making reality cleaner.
It is also about becoming wiser in how we live with life.
🌿 A practical reflection
The next time you feel the impulse to reject, eliminate, or hate something that feels inconvenient, you might pause and ask:
What exactly am I trying to protect?
Then ask:
Is this truly something that needs to be removed —
or is there a more conscious way to relate, redesign, or evolve here?
This question can soften a lot.
Not because it makes everything easy.
But because it shifts us from reflex to relationship.
From aversion to awareness.
From force to wisdom.
🌿 Closing
The driver’s answer was simple:
Maybe they will evolve.
Or maybe we will evolve to live with them in a more harmonious way.
That feels like a powerful metaphor for life itself.
When conditions change, not everything needs to become a battle.
Sometimes, what is being asked of us is not more hatred,
but more maturity.
Not more control,
but a deeper relationship with what life is showing us.
And perhaps that is part of Rebirth Leadership too:
not only creating better conditions,
but becoming the kind of human being who can meet change
with clarity, compassion, and a wider form of intelligence.
With love and gratitude,
Jen 🌿
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If you are in a season where your business, team, or leadership identity is changing — and you can feel that something deeper is being asked of you — I’d be glad to hold a 30-minute conversation with you.
A space to pause, look at what is truly happening beneath the surface, and sense what may be asking to evolve next.
