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When I was a child, someone looked at my hand and told me: “Throughout your life, you will often be misunderstood, especially by people and in things that matter deeply to you.”
I don’t know whether a hand can predict a life. But the sentence stayed with me, and over the years there have been moments when I wondered: is this what that person meant?
Recently, after some difficult conversations, I noticed how draining it can be to keep explaining: the intention behind a decision, what we were trying to protect, what others may not have seen. And still, a part of us can whisper: one more explanation, and they will understand.
Sometimes explaining is right. Sometimes we did communicate poorly, and another person’s response shows us something we genuinely need to see.
“They don’t understand me” can become a hiding place if we use it to avoid looking at ourselves.
But underneath all that explaining, there can be another layer.
The deepest pain may not only be that we are misunderstood. It may be that, through being misunderstood, we begin to misunderstand ourselves.
We begin looking at ourselves through someone else’s interpretation. Their disappointment can start to feel like proof that we have failed. We can spend so much energy correcting the picture outside us that we stop listening to the person inside it.
Different Souls in us can arrive in that moment.
The One Who Longs to Be Understood wants the whole picture seen; she cares about truth and connection.
The Good Daughter asks, “What did I do wrong?” because she takes responsibility seriously.
The Achiever wants to repair everything, perfectly.
The Angry One says, “If you can’t understand me, then leave,” protecting something precious.
None of them needs to disappear.
And The Compassionate Witness can sit beside them and ask:
What is actually true here?
What is mine to repair?
What needs to be communicated more clearly?
And where have I begun to see myself only through someone else’s eyes?
Sometimes the answer is to apologise.
Sometimes to clarify.
Sometimes to change.
And sometimes we have already explained enough, acted with integrity, and can let another person keep an interpretation we cannot control.
Not every misunderstanding needs another explanation.
And not every interpretation of us needs to become our identity.
This is not:
“I know myself, so no one else’s view matters.”
Nor is it:
“If someone sees me differently, I must be wrong.”
We can know ourselves and still stay open.
We can listen to feedback without surrendering what we know.
We can apologise for what we did without deciding we are wrong as people.
We can examine what is ours, repair what needs repairing, and return to ourselves with greater clarity.
We can clarify once, and then stop defending.
And sometimes we can allow a relationship to change without turning that change into a war.
Being misunderstood can still hurt. Gratitude does not mean being grateful for the hurt itself.
It can mean being grateful for the invitation underneath it: to return, listen more deeply, and understand ourselves before deciding what someone else’s picture means about who we are.
Perhaps that is the rebirth inside misunderstanding:
not becoming harder,
not becoming indifferent,
but becoming more able to come home to ourselves while remaining open to what another person may be showing us.
One question to carry into the week:
When I feel misunderstood, am I only trying to make someone understand me—or am I also taking the time to understand myself?
Love and gratitude from Jen ❤️
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