Everyone needs a coach...(#2)

“If a pond is clouded with mud, there’s nothing you can do to make the water clear. But when you allow the mud to settle, it will clear on its own, because clarity is the water’s natural state...”

“If you are a glass of clear and pure water, and there is a small drop of ink in your glass of water. What will you do to not be clouded by ink? or reduce turbidity?”

I was fascinated by the situation the lecturer presented to the participants of the S-growth Innovation Coaching Program 2021 cohort.

‘Let the ink settle,’ said one participant.

'A good idea, is there another way?' the lecturer asked.

Is there any other way? What you will do…

‘Put this water into the great ocean?’ one participant replied.

When we mix a cup of water with cloudy ink in the big sea, then the ink cloudiness will be only a small part.

In life, if we do a lot of great things - these great things will overweigh the things which are not so great.

To do that, we need to have CLARITY of what is 'great'. We need clarity about what's good and what's not so good. We need clarity about who we want to be.

I believe that one of the great things about coaching is to bring us CLARITY on our core values and what truly matters to us.

To gain clarity, we often use the tool '7S':

Self-identity: 3 core values about our best true self.

Social roles: 3 important social roles to express our true best self.

Skills: 3 important skills to help us realize the social roles.

Successful stories: 3 successful stories (coming a lot from failure but then succeeding) from which to learn.

Social circles: 3 social circles (communities) to help us nurture our skills and best true self.

Schedule: protected time/schedule to develop these skills/spend time with the social circles.

What is your tool to develop CLARITY? about what truly matters to u?