I HEAR YOU
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‘Both of you should go home’, I said coldly.
‘Wow, she is crazy, isn’t she?’, my mum said to Ly when hearing me say that.
‘Ly is an adult, she would be able to come here by herself; I don’t understand why you also have to come with her’, I continued speaking to mum.
It was the conversation that I had with mum and Ly, when seeing them come together to the market.
Ly came back to visit my hometown. That morning, I went to the market to see my sister and my mum who stayed there from very early morning.
Normally, mum left the office to go back home earlier than my sister to take a rest. That day, I asked mum to ask Ly to come to the market by herself to have a look at the market. My intention was to let Ly explore the market as a new experience.
I knew mum would be very thoughtful so she would worry about Ly - whether she could find the market or not – so I told mum about my intention and how independent Ly was. Around more than 10 minutes later, mum and Ly arrived in front of me.
Thinking about mum who had been woken up early in the morning, and how tired she was, I felt so bad. With those emotions, I asked mum and Ly to go home right away.
Both Ly and mum didn’t feel great about it at that time. It was a great example of me acting on emotions. I calmed myself down after repeatedly talking with mum and Ly.
My sister was there and she said I made a small thing become big thing. She said I was not thinking about the feelings of mum and Ly: mum cared for the friend of her daughter; Ly didn’t know the whole context and my intention.
I apologized to mum and Ly later on, and found it was so interesting that I often helped people with emotional mastery, and there are some dark corners – in which the emotions still triggered the unwanted action.
It is interesting, isn’t it? We experience darkness in ourselves to embrace our better self.
If someone reacted sometimes in an intensive way, maybe it is important to hear them out: the person who reacted; the person who did the action; and after all to communicate these to each other.
