Be your BEST

Do you strongly feel about your BEST self?

How can you live up to your BEST everyday and then you can get things done well, you feel great about yourself, you feel great about life.

1. Have clarity about who you are

- Ask yourself: what is the self that I felt great when I was it, I achieved goals when I was that self, people also felt great to be around me, what would be the self?

- If you do not feel it strongly which mean you have not practiced often enough. Remind yourself to now practice living upto that person

- Use three words to describe your best self and use triggers (e.g., alrm on phone, or reminder on laptop, or post it on your business card) to remind yourself living up to that self

2. Continous improvement

- Read, listen to inspirational materials after you wake up and before you go to sleep

- Surround youself by like-minded people

- Go to seminar, talk

Just invest in yourself everyday

3. Live with services and kindness

- Ask yourself every morning, what can you do to serve people better everyday

- Be nice to others, just simple like a smile

Shine your BEST self everyday!

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Day 9: How to keep your integrity

How to stick to your words because our time and energy equally important, we need to respect others' time and energy as our time and energy. We do not want to say Yes then cannot delivery that may damage the relationship with others. 

4 ideas that will help you stick to your word:

#1. Know the Why and Don’t commit to everything:  Stop committing to things that you’re not passionate about or not sure that you can commit or really crucial for others. Don't think that it is good to say Yes to please people because having to say sorry as you cannot commit after saying Yes is even worse. You may think people feel good when you say Yes but the bad feeling when you do not delivery is much worse. So if you say Yes, you need to be aware of your WHY and people WHY.

#2. Respect other people’s time. Your time is not more valuable than others. Respect others’ time much as you respect and want to protect your own. Remember that everybody has priorities, life, and responsibilities. Your decision to cancel on them disrupts their day and life, and that’s not fair. You don’t want people ruining your schedule so don’t do it to others.

#3. Reevaluate before breaking your word: Sometimes, we say ‘yes’ to a lot of things but we forget the WHY when we start working on them. We forget why we said ‘yes’ in the first place and lose passion, and so we quit. Before you cancel on anything, try to remember why you originally said yes. In other words, revisit the WHY so that you’re willing to endure the struggle.

#4. Recovery. If you cancel on someone or fail to deliver, you’ve broken your word. You need to buy back your character, reputation, and integrity with an act of kindness, generosity, or attrition. You’ll have to go beyond your original commitment. Not only does this type of act regain your reputation, it also supports you on your journey to being a good person. When you mess up, be more generous. 

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Day 8: The BEST you

3 IDEAS about having CLARITY of your best self:

1. Define your best self - use three words to describe your best self 

2. How does your best self interact with people - use three ways to describe your intention when interacting with people

3. What made you succeed - use the successful patterns to achieve new goals

DETAILS: 

1. Your best self. 

- Have clearly thought about who you want to be and who your ideal self would be on a day-to-day basis.

- Articulately describe who the person you are trying to become 

- Exercise: 3 words to describe your best self > reminding yourself to live up to that person (for example: in your notebook; your phone) > share it with people to keep accountability 

2. Interactions With Others. 

- Have clarity about how you want to interact with others

- Know your values and people's values, respect other ideas

-  What kind of impression and relationship you want with others

- Exercise: before you walk into meetings, spend some minutes to set clear intentions for how to interact with others

3. What Makes You Succeed

- What specific things made you succeed in the past?  Are you doing those things consistently this year? Define your successful patterns and reinforce it, apply it with bigger scales, bigger effort and you will get bigger results.

Exercise:

+ The conscious awareness of the tactics, habits, and mindsets that have made you successful in the past: 3 key patterns

+ Re-scale it and re-evaluate to see what work, what does not work

+ Learn from the people who have achieved big results in the field that you want, you also can model them and you may be surprised that they may share with you what you already know, so the question is that - Have you done it consitently?

Day 7: What to do when you feel lost

Yes you can find yourself again!

3 ideas to do when you get lost: 

1. Engagement. You don't need to suffer feeling lost by yourself. Just engage with your friends and your family to gain another perspectives. Just go for a drink and listen to people's stories or tell your stories and  share your stories. Just need to look at things in other perspectives. 

2. Giving more. Just give more, care more for people. When you think for others more than yourself, you get engaged with your deep self again. Do some volunteer work, do something nice to others. 

3. See it as the way it is but not worse. At least you don't make it worse, see it as the way it is. Gain momentum by getting things done. When you take action, even small thing, you gain the momentum again. 

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Day 5: How to stay focus

To be more focused:

1. Take control of one hour after you wake up: 20 minutes feeding your mind by reading/listening personal development materials + 20 minutes planning gratitude mindset goals of days and improvement in doing things + 20 minutes exercise 

2. Triggers/blocking time to refresh after each task 

3. Take control of one hour before going to sleep: reading and writing gratitude journal instead of surfing 

Day 4: Decision to FOCUS/MEANING

Make a decision to what to FOCUS: 

- what you can control? what you cannot control?

- what is working? what is not working?

- what you do not like? what to do to change it?

Make a decision to give MEANING?

- learning or the end?

- must or should?

DECISION TO MAKE EVERY MOMENT!

BELIEVE again

BELIEVE again

Believe again in our dreams

Believe again in our ability of figure things out

Believe again in life

1. Think about everyday as an new opportunity to believe again in ourselves, dreams, and others

2. Believe in our ability of figure things out

3. Believe in the power of choosing which meaning to give into life

Believe in ourselves then people believe with us and believe in themselves...

Believe in u!

PASSION: Infinitive RESOURCE of energy: 29 days challenge to breakthrough

PASSION: PASS MISSION TO ACTION 

1. Identify your mission in life 

Remember you are more than your physical body. Knowing that you live not only for you. 

If you do not know exactly your mission, just learn to progress everyday. 

2. Action

What to do to develop your skills everyday. If you know your mission, then you just need to take action that matter to your mission.

Remember the key elements is to grow and to give.

3. Honor the struggle and bring joy to what you do

ENERGY: 29days challenge to breakthrough

How to create and sustain ENERGY?

Firstly, the mindset toward energy should be: ENERGY is created by ourselves. We have infinitive energy that we just need to tap into it and make it flow.

Secondly, apply this model: WATER model 

1. Water: drink more water 

Remember our body is more than 70% water

Remember the planet has more than 70% 

So go back to the nature.

Tip: put lemon in the water in the early morning

2. Action

Ask what can you learn everyday? What can you give people everyday? (even just a smile or kindness action) What do you feel thankful everyday (GRATITUDE)?

3. Triggers 

Set up the alarm to remind yourself to stay present! 

Or set up schedule to call your friends or accountable partner to stay motivated 

4. Exercise and go green 

Mind exercise and body exercise and eat more green 

5. Reason: reconnect with your purpose everyday 

The fundamental of purpose is to grow and give joyfully to make a difference in life.

Have an energetic day!

Love,

Jen,

How to design a great day

3 questions to desing your great day when you wake up:

1. what do you feel thankful for? (GRATITUDE for the mind)

Focus on gratitude > happier > more productive

2. Focus: what goals do you FOCUS today? (for PROGRESSING)

The daily goals should move you towards your life goals.

3. What can you do differently today? (for raising STANDARDS)

Youtube and Podcast:

How to stay motivated - self-motivation

The key thing is MOTIVATION does not exist until the moment we create it.

Motivation is self-created.

Anyone can motivate you for some moments, to sustain the motivation, you need to create it every single day until it becomes a 'habit'.

How to create your self-motivation/intrinsic motivation - not extrinsic motivation (intrinsic motivation: personally desire; extrinsic motivation: external reward).

1. Be ambitious/hungry: Knowing your desire, ambition, big goals, or purpose 

Every single day, you need to re-connect with it, visualize it emotionally connect with it.

2. Empowering beliefs: Believing in your ability of figure thing out

3. Progress: get 3 things done everyday to move toward your ambition/desire

4. Attitude: Fully responsibility of your life and gratitude toward life

5. Focus

My study with 334 students shows that intrinsic motivation is directly connected to attitude while extrinsic motivation does not.

Be self-motivated everyday.

How to transfer KNOWLEDGE to SUCCESS

How to transmute DESIRE to MONETARY EQUIVALENT

How to stick on your goals: from goals setting to goals achieving person

What transform you from a goals-setting person to goals-aching person?

1. Having a goal which is APPEALING/CHALLENGING/DEFINITENESS/CONNECTING WITH YOUR DESIRE/PURPOSE

You may hear about SMART goal but before using that SMART goal technique, you need to think big for yourself. SMART goal can trap you by giving you chances to set goals in your comfort zone.

If you have set your goals, take a moment to re-evaluate it:

- Make you feel scared

- Make you feel challenged

- Make you feel excited 

- Connect with your purpose/your desire 

The bottom line is it makes you push yourself to take BOLD ACTION, to go extra mile. You may not know how to achieve it yet but you are excited because if you crash it, you raise to another standard in life, you discover more about yourself.

If you set a goal in your comfort zone, you will not feel excited maybe stressful because of getting it done on that day but not because you may discover about your ability.

2. Emotion + mind + body working for the goals 

If you do not emotionally connect with it, your body will resit. 

Every morning:

- Visualize your journey from you are now, overcome challenges and achieve the goals. You keep your smiles on the way no matter how difficult it might be.

- Feel it, See it, touch it, even smell it 

(Draw the picture of it? Stick it around your house?)

3. Find an accountable friend for it

Share it with your coach/mentor/friends who lift you up and believe in your potential.

They will keep accountability for you to achieve that goals.

Listen to other people's goals to charge your goals by momentum also. Cheers other people which automatically you cheer yourself.

You are more than any moment

You are more than any moment

How to feel alive : progressing; the power of moment

What is the biggest fear – losing your job is not problem anymore if you hear you have cancer

What is the best thing that could happen in your life?

Affirmation verbally not enough – incantation feeling

Think about the moment that you achieve your goals – make it the whole body feeling – now I am the voice, I will lead not follow, I will believe not doubt, I will create not destroy, I am a leader to find the art , step up , now I am the voice

You are the voice not

You live life on your standard you don’t settle

You step up and claim who you are

Your life is matter, you are a giver not a taker

You define yourself, define your life

The voice is nothing more than the meaning you are giving something you did or didn’t do. 

You judge and evaluate yourself and the little voice in your head is just you “hearing” that judgment and evaluation.

Increase your PRODUCTIVITY: the rule 3

1. Live up to your best self described by 3 ADJECTIVES every single day
For ex: I am, Jessica, enthusiastic passionate patient person
To live up to your best self consciously and subconsciously by putting it on your walls, your laptops, and your phones
or set up TRIGGERS - pop up in your phone to remind you occasionally everyday.
2. Goals everyday
3 goals everyday to move you towards your long-term goals in life.
You will take action to achieve your daily goals and then move closer to your long-term goals.
It also helps you to keep the momentum with daily achievement.
3. Gear you up to wake up every morning
Refer to the book - the 5 second rule - count down to gear you up and get out of bed.
4. Control our action based on our emotions
Anytime you feel angry, count down 3 to 1 to calm down and act with your intentionally self
Reconnect with your best self that are bigger than the anger
5. Gratitude
3 things that you feel thankful for everyday. Focus on GRATITUDE to be more productive.

More self-disciplined

Our beliefs, our motivation, our action physically and emotionally connected. The mind and the body should be as a system supporting for your goals.

1. Emotionally connection 

Visualization practice to emotionally connect with your task

2. Do your work before responding to the world 

3. Schedule 

4. Social reward 

5. Recording anytime you are not desciplined or disciplined 

You are more than any moment

How to feel alive : progressing; the power of moment

What is the biggest fear – losing your job is not problem anymore if you hear you have cancer

What is the best thing that could happen in your life?

Affirmation verbally not enough – incantation feeling

Think about the moment that you achieve your goals – make it the whole body feeling – now I am the voice, I will lead not follow, I will believe not doubt, I will create not destroy, I am a leader to find the art , step up , now I am the voice

You are the voice not

You live life on your standard you don’t settle

You step up and claim who you are

Your life is matter, you are a giver not a taker

You define yourself, define your life

The voice is nothing more than the meaning you are giving something you did or didn’t do. 

You judge and evaluate yourself and the little voice in your head is just you “hearing” that judgment and evaluation.

Does it add value to our life?

16 March, we learned different lessons. BELIEVE SMALL STEPS KEEP GOING. One speaker taught us to believe in ourselves. Another taught us to take small step and try it anyway. Another speaker showed us his perseverance. We also had a wonderful speaker who shared 'Tackle the hardest part first'.

I found another lesson for not only my speech but in doing projects in my life. CUT what does not add value. One experience speaker used to write down his speech and turned 3 sentences to 3 words while remaining same message.

I reflected back the time I could cut 4000 words essay to 2000 words essay; 5000 words to 2500 words. I never did it with my speech? 

From speech to life?

Does this ADD value to my life?

Ask this question and only keep the things having the ABSOLUTE yes.

***********************************How can we stay FOCUSED***************************************

1. Using number 3 rule: 

Before you do anything, before you reply to any requests, count down 3 to 1: 

+ To avoid reply by your impulsive thoughts 

+ You can calm down and intentionally reply

+ Repeat the process to re-check with your mission; whether the request is going to move you towards your mission in life?

+ Repeat to check whether the opportunity help you grow?

+ Does it add value to your life or people life?

2. Saying NO more often 

+ Saying NO to the things which do not give you the absolute answer 'YES' for the questions above

+ Saying NO to express your respect to other that you need time to think about the request; and that you only say YES when you can be sure 100% that you can commit to it with your heart

+ Saying NO to express your respect to your self and your mission 

3. Cut non-essential things 

Just take a pen and a paper and draw your activity pictures. 

- 5 activity you normally do every day 

- 5 activity you normally do every week 

- Evaluate to see whether these activities can give you the answer YES to the questions in section 1

4. Use the 9 minutes rule

- Increase 9 minutes for being mindful with gratitude 

- Increase 9 minutes for physical exercise

- Increase 9 minutes thinking about strategies for doing things better

- Increase 9 minutes for reading books 

- Increase 9 minutes for writing journal 

- Reduce 9 minutes browsing everyday

- Reduce 9 minutes watching videos or youtube in the subjects not adding value to your life

- Reduce 9 minutes of thinking about I have to do this but not doing 

5. Setting triggers to remind yourself 

Little things

Podcast: http://www.podcastgarden.com/episode/weekly-gratitude_100906

Weekend gratitude
I went to my favorite coffee shop for writing but got a different feeling today. I saw a family with 4 people, 2 kids and parents. I closed my laptop and admirably observed them play a game. One person acted out as an animal or famous person, others guessed. They could laugh and hugged each other when one guessed correctly. 
They would cheer each other for each correct answer. The mother would take the hat of the little girl and put on her head. 
Have you ever felt the same?
Little thing in life. But beautiful.
Little thing can move us if we tune in in the present moment.
Observe people, observe life to tune in the present.
Fully present to connect with our deep down.
Thanks for being you!
Thanks for life.