Jen Vuhuong

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ASKING QUESTIONS

GREAT QUESTIONS!


WITHOUT A GOOD QUESTION, A GOOD ANSWER HAS NO PLACE TO GO. _ Clayton Christensen

Asking questions is challenging, asking good questions is even more challenging to practice daily because we tend to talk more and give advice - yes, we want to help and we love to share. But we also know that, the more effective way to connect and help people is to listen and understand more about them. To facilitate for that process, asking questions is a great starting point, asking great questions is even an extraordinary place to start.

I hear stories about great questions triggered a turning point process of people. In an interview with Ms Van - the founder of Elsa, she told me the question made her know what she wanted to do in life is "What matter to you?". She was a Vietnamese student, going to study in the US and she was never asked before when studying in Vietnam. She didn't know how to answer at first, but by being asked many times, she went to a deeper reflection of herself and became more aware of what she wanted to do in her life.

What questions have triggered your process of change? What questions have you asked to help others to trigger their changing process?

In this morning, I am reading the book :The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More..." of Michael Bungay Stainer; it was interesting to trigger myself in practicing better the coaching habit when talking to myself, my team, my partners.

Here are 3 powerful questions to trigger our awareness about who want to become (in the book - Habits of high performance people, Brendon Burchard):

  • Three words that describe my best self are...

  • Three words that could define how I want to treat other people are...

  • Three skills I am trying to develop most in my life right now are...

Three questions to ask to trigger an intentional productive day are:

  • Three main outcomes of today are...

  • One think I could do today to demonstrateg exellence or real value is...

  • One thing I could do today to challenge my limit is...

Three questions to ask people to trigger their changing process:

  • What habits do you need to break?

  • What old stories or dated ambitions do you need to update?

  • What beliefs about yourself do you need to let go of?

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Many more about questions to share...

What is the question or what are questions that trigger your turning point in life?