What i know for sure
WHAT YOU KNOW FOR SURE?
What I know for sure
- when you are vulnerable, true to yourself, you become more free and stronger; when you are grateful, you have it all.
One day, a friend asked me "what is special to me today?"
What I know for sure was the answer.
That morning, I listened to Oprah's book in which she told her story of being shame for a decade because of being sexually abused at her early age. She kept that shameless within her thinking others would judge her. And when she revealed it, she became totally free and everyone still love her as they have done - because they love what she stands for - empowering others through her work.
I looked back at what I felt shame for to share with u ...Maybe you can think of what made you feel shameful for?
When I was a kid, people told me I was ugly but then there were someone trying to take advantage of me. I couldn't remember clearly how was that but it also hindered how I reacted in my relationship later on. I told my boyfriend at that time and he said sorry to hear that, it didn't change how much he loved and appreciated me.
When I was studying in the UK, I got some difficult time regarding finance that I had to go to find more work. But my visa was almost running out of so it was difficult to be accepted. And even people told me I was more qualified than the job I applied (e.g., working in a restaurant).
I remember after one week consistently looking for more work, I walked past by an Arabic restaurant, I saw a recruitment sign.
I walked inside and saw a tall smart guy making pizza. I asked him to help him.
He said "sure".
And he told me to come to another day where he could teach me make falafel and if I could then he would like to have me working there.
I learned fast making falafel, pizza and helping to manage the restaurant.
He was really strict to me. He required me clean every little thing carefully, put each thing carefully nicely and he also taught me all of his recipe for making better dishes.
Sometimes I was thinking to the comfort moments of my engineering life before, being in luxury hotels when traveling and working in modern buildings - I felt a bit bitter with my own situation when choosing my new career of writing and training. I was shameful to tell my coaching clients or people who came to my seminar about my part time job at the restaurant. I kept it for myself.
And one day, a client walked past by the restaurant, he came to me smiling cheerfully, excited to see I could make falafel. At that moment, I realized there was nothing to be shameful of but my own thinking. I realized I learned so much about patience and food^^.
I then asked all people I used to feel scared of if they would know me to come and try falafel i made. It was a JOY.
The shame became a JOY.
Shame is just a delusion of our own self that we think less of ourselves. Our true values are what matter!
WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE is what I stand for - empowering others - the rest is just secondary.
WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE for you is that you have values that if you value them, they matter to others. And that is the only thing matter, not your past, your current situation.
What I know for sure is you are great! Don't let anything happening before limit you!
Love you!