Jen Vuhuong

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How to sustain self-discipline

Why is it important to be self-disciplined? Having self-discipline means having self-control. When you can control yourself, you feel that you are the victor of your life instead of victim of life; you focus on solutions, you focus on positivity, you are happier. Self-discipline and taking full responsibility for your life complement each other. Discipline also allows you to master your skills, then master your life to realise your dreams. You can discipline your daily habits, such as reading and making healthy choices, but first and foremost, you have to discipline your thoughts. Your thoughts become your behaviours, which then render your results. You want to discipline the thoughts to make them work for your passion not against your passion. Discipline the gratitude thoughts.

Rule 1: Associate discipline with positive emotions “Discipline brings you more freedom by living more precisely rather than being distracted by randomness”.

For example, instead of saying – you want to lose weight (“losing” doesn’t sounds very appealing) – you say to yourself that you want to do exercise to keep fit – you want to wake up early to do exercise, you can enjoy the fresh air and wake up your body to feel vibrant. That will help you start your day in control…then you will work better during the day…

Rule 2: Discipline equals self-love

Because you love yourself, you don’t want to feel disappointed about yourself when not having discipline to overcome distractions or temporary temptations.

You love yourself too much to eat unhealthy food because you don’t want to blame yourself later. You love yourself to much to blame others because you know you won’t feel good after that.

Rule 3: Self-discipline comes with the ability to come back to your discipline even you lose track for one or two days or one or two times…Steps to be disciplined:

- Step 1: Remember the reason you need to practice discipline in a certain task.

- Step 2: Use Reminders – objects to activate the habit that you want to build (for example: put a sticky note on the wall in front of your desk.)

- Step 3: Create an environment that supports the making of habits (for example, drinking water is harmful to the health if it is directly from the refrigerator – leave glasses of water in several places in the house if you want to practice the habit of drinking a lot of water.)

- Step 4: Mark what you have achieved through the days and celebrate them in that program (for example, you can enjoy yourself somewhere to relax, maybe to have sex or have a healthy meal.)

Practice gratitude discipline:

Every morning, practice being grateful, think and write about three things that you feel grateful for. Feel it with all your senses, you are alive!

- Every time you have a problem, be grateful that it will challenge you, so that you can grow.

- Say thank you to colleagues, relatives and acquaintances.

Every evening, think about three things you are grateful for that day.

I am giving 30-min coaching to help you get started: jenvuhuong.com/coaching

With love,

Jen,